Everyday Jade

All the miscellaney…

He’s Home!

Aug 9, 2018 | Posted by in Being Poly, Everyday Jade | 0

I see I’ve been remiss in my commitment to posting more often. I even had a pretty great image for last Sinful Sunday’s “With a Camera” theme. I’m so bummed I didn’t gather up the energy to post it. Or, you know, schedule it ahead of time. It’s not like I didn’t know for weeks beforehand that I’d be out of town on a float and cabin-camping trip with a bunch of lovely friends this past weekend. Boo on my (non) preparedness skills! That out-of-town thing was pretty spectacularly fun, by the way. It being sooo much fun is in part why I didn’t post the picture Sunday. I was HUNGOVER Sunday like a big dog. Not that I am proud of being hung, but for once I didn’t have any regrets for having got that way. I accepted my pounding head as perfectly reasonable payment for having an amazingRead more …

Two Weeks-at-a-Glance

Jul 28, 2018 | Posted by in Being Poly, Everyday Jade, Kinky Stuff, Relationship Stuff | 2

I started using a daily journaling app on my phone so I can quickly jot down what I do each day. Not journaling like here, but more bullet points to jog my memory. Or that I can refer back to when I’m struggling to remember what the heck I did last Thursday, or what happened on a certain play date (“Was that the time you made me push the ball around on the floor, or the time I had to roll the dice to see what implement you were going to use next?”) The cool thing is that it connects with my calendar, the gps on my phone, with Facebook and my photos app automatically. It has an activity feed that shows where I was when, and pulls in any FB posts or pictures I took, and then I review it, decide if I want to keep it, or atRead more …

A Strong BoobDay

Jul 13, 2018 | Posted by in Boob Day, Everyday Jade | 7

So this is probably not your “normal” Boob Day image. But, hell, I’m not normal, am I. (Who is? What is? Who gets to decide these things?) But I am sharing it for Hy’s Friday is Boob Day meme because…well…I love my breasts here! I love their soft curves, their little round, pillow-y hillocks, even while every other part of me is straining. I love my nipples, tight little points that echo the strain of the rest of me. And I love the strength in this image – my strength, while still being…beautiful. Touchable. Thank you, Hyacinth, for celebrating boobs in all their shapes and forms!  

Strategy 101

Jul 4, 2018 | Posted by in Being Poly, Everyday Jade, Who Is Pieces of Jade? | 0

I’m not good at strategy games. Chess is so far beyond my ken as to be a game played in a foreign language. I just can’t think that far in the future, can’t begin to anticipate my own moves, much less anyone else’s. And I have absolutely no desire to manipulate people or situations. In case it isn’t abundantly clear, I’m talking about how I manage myself in relationships as well. I’m not good at games where each side is premeditating and calculating every move. When I try to anticipate, to do something that will effect a specific result, I invariably fall short. Yes, I can see a little ahead. I’m not blind to consequences and how what I do now affects what happens later. But I’m not good at strategizing. At planning my moves to achieve a certain outcome. And I don’t necessarily want to be. I mean, IRead more …

Triptych – Yellow (Edited: Oops!)

Jun 30, 2018 | Posted by in Everyday Jade, Sinful Sunday | 14

The first Sunday of the month is always a theme for Sinful Sunday. I usually miss it (go figure, right?) and I would have this month too, except that I happened to read Rebel’s oh-so-helpful “meme guide.” I love that thing, I truly do. (It’s at the end of her #SOSS posts.) Anyway. I had a couple things in mind, but then today I had some time to myself to download the pics from our Vegas trip that our friend Allan had taken. This guy is an amazing photographer. After seeing a few of them, I decided I had to do a triptych of some of them. These are in his “yellow” series. At Red Rocks Canyon Park, at sunset.   Edit: Ah hell, I can’t even get this right! It’s “Diptych” not “Triptych”! Oh well…here ya go, because I don’t have the time or patience to do it allRead more …

June 30 – Every. Damn. Day.

Jun 30, 2018 | Posted by in Every Damn Day in June, Everyday Jade | 2

Is it really the LAST day of June? The last day of this writing challenge? Like after a beloved book ends, I am feeling a little…bereft. How will I keep myself writing? I really thought it would be harder than it was. I thought I’d have to fight myself to write every day. And yes, there were days when I simply had nothing to say, or I was too tired to “write” or my brain was in empty mode when I got home or the idea of getting on the computer was just too hard to contemplate. But still, except for a very few exceptions, I did it. I sat here and wrote something. And, I wrote at work, in between all the things, instead of taking a 10 minute smoke break (okay there isn’t anybody (that I know of) that takes smoke breaks in my office, including me) butRead more …

June 28 – An Accounting

It’s not the end of the “Every Damn Day in June” challenge, but it is the end of my food challenge, and I am happy to say that I did pretty well. I wasn’t 100% by any means, but I was about 85 – 90%. It did make me stop and think about every food choice I made, and many, many times I made better decisions. Or, in certain specific cases, I chose to eat something that was on my list, knowing there would be consequences, but making that choice consciously, not just putting food in my mouth because it tastes good, and maybe trading off somewhere else. We’ll see how/if this new awareness  continues. I do know that without the aegis not to eat it, nightly ice cream will be a hard thing to resist. One thing that was really hard for me was no fast food. I don’t likeRead more …

June 27 – Writing Under Duress

I am beset with technical challenges. Tonight, while I tried to charge my external keyboard that I use with my tablet, I decided to use my laptop instead. Have you ever been on your  computer while someone else, a technician maybe, took control for a few minutes? Yeah, it was like that. All of sudden my mouse is moving everywhere, windows are opening and closing in my browser, my mouse is completely out of my control. It was like a poltergeist in my computer. I have no idea what was going on. I typed out a panicky text to V (OMG what if Russians are using my computer to spread pro-Trump propaganda?? [I really can’t think of anything worse than that]) but he’s already abed, so I turned it off and am hoping it was just some weird fluke. Meanwhile, now I’m here laying in bed typing with an on-screenRead more …

June 21 – A Learning Curve

Jun 21, 2018 | Posted by in Every Damn Day in June, Everyday Jade, Uncategorized | 0

I suck at conflict resolution. I didn’t realize that until recently, though. I thought, because there was so little conflict in my marriage, in my relationship with Adam, and in my relationship with W, that that meant I was super good at resolving things in a healthy manner. Go me! And I believe I also thought the inverse of that: because there have been conflicts in my relationship with V, there’s something wrong with it. But that’s not exactly true. The truth is that (I have only recently come to realize) there were few conflicts in my previous long-term relationships because my way of “resolving” a potential conflict was to either, a) run away from it, or b) give in so there was no conflict. I knew I was conflict-averse. That’s a fact of being me: I go to any lengths to avoid conflicts. The realization was that avoiding allRead more …

June 17 – The Heat is a Vampire

Jun 17, 2018 | Posted by in Being Poly, Every Damn Day in June, Everyday Jade | 0

The end of another weekend. I like my job, so it’s not dread that I feel about going in tomorrow (I’ve been in that job before) but I am…weary. I wish I could just stay home. Why don’t I have a life where I don’t have to work 8-5?? (Don’t answer; stupid question.) It’s been a good weekend. Full of good poly time, good time with V, good time with Ad. Got a few house things done, some walking done, some talking and cooking and brunching and enjoying life done. But it’s been so damned hot it feels like any kind of movement at all saps my energy and my will to move or engage. Every movement might be my last for awhile as I recup from the heat. Ad has been over since Saturday (two days in a row!) and it’s been mostly nice. Sometimes it’s been frustrating. LikeRead more …