Everyday Jade

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A Late #AtoZChallenge Post – S, T, U…

Well, here it is … um … Thursday? and I have apparently fucked-off on a lotta letters. Reasons, reasons, I had reasons. Though I’m having a hard time thinking of them right now. So I am just going to throw myself back in the game and give ya’ll (and me) a round-up of the letters I’ve missed. S and T is for Sex and Toys As in – “sex toys.” Cuz I’m sure you didn’t catch that, right?  Anywhooo… A long (long) time ago (and no I am not gonna ‘fess up to how long) I thought and felt many wrong things about sex toys. I was not as “woke” to them, or to my – or others’ – sexuality then, and didn’t understand them as anything other than a “crutch” for someone that couldn’t have sex the “normal” way; or whose lover couldn’t or wouldn’t give them pleasure. ARead more …

#AtoZChallenge – R is for…Realization, Risk & Rules

Wow, when I started brainstorming an “R” word, I had no idea that there were at least THREE memes with wonderful R words all ready for me to take on. Hold on to your hats, folks, this might be a long one. (Being cooped up for days in the aftermath of surgery, with lots of pain medication and nothing else to do might account for my long-winded-ness too. Who knows.) First up… Realization From The Erotic Journal Challenge, “Realization – Write about a time when you realized something about your sexuality.” I’ve tried looking back to find the one pivotal moment when I realized that I might be…different…than other people that I knew in regards to sex (I was raised in a very small town where, if there was any hint of any kind of sexual “deviancy,” it was well-hidden.) I think the best I can do is maybe just listRead more …

#AtoZChallenge – P is for Paper Tape

I’ll make this post short and sweet. I’d very much have preferred to use a word like pussy, or maybe penetrate or even penis or passion to write about, but all I got right now is: paper tape. Why, you might ask, would I be grateful for something so mundane? So…functional, so pedestrian? Let me tell you. Two years ago I had bunionectomies on both feet. The surgeries were very successful. I recovered quickly and to the point of being able to do all of the things I had had to stop doing because of pain before the surgeries. But about six months ago I noticed a bony protrusion where my big toe had been broken and reset during the surgery. When I started conditioning for our Grand Canyon trip, I noticed that the protrusion was painful, making hiking more than a couple miles a misery. I was worried something hadRead more …

#AtoZChallenge – N is for No

“No” might seem to be an odd thing to be grateful for. Especially for a submissive woman who really likes to please. But in the past year I have learned the power of no – even when it hurts or isn’t want I want to hear or say. I’m not talking only about my own “no’s.” My No’s I have finally realized/accepted a truth about myself. I used to think I was shy, although I admit, even then, it didn’t feel like it quite fit. I learned, particularly in the past year, that what I am is an introvert. That doesn’t mean that I don’t enjoy socializing. When I finally do get myself “out there,” interacting with people in a social setting, I enjoy it very much! But my enjoyment has a very definite window of opportunity, and when that window closes, I’m done. It could be three nights inRead more …

#AtoZChallenge – B is for Botanical Gardens

Besides February and March sucking for the obvious reasons I mentioned yesterday, I also know the joy (or anti-joy) that is Seasonal Affective Disorder, and by the time February rolls around I am usually deep in hibernation-not-hibernation mode. My spirits are low, my energy is non-existent, and I have a hard time believing in spring. This spring especially seemed slow to show itself – before this past weekend I don’t think any of the trees were even budding! Then, all of a sudden – BAM! Just like always, spring had sprung. I really should have more faith in Mother Nature. I am fortunate enough to live only two blocks from the Botanical Gardens, and this year, I am a member, thanks to Adam (membership also includes the Butterfly House and Shaw Reserve, two other places that help dispel the spring-hasn’t-sprung-yet blues.) And if the daffodils on my street weren’t enoughRead more …

#AtoZChallenge – A is for Abundance

This month I am once again participating – officially, this time – in the A to Z Blogging Challenge. It’s been for around for a few years now – ten, actually, according to their website, though I have only participated in it unofficially once, last year. (I didn’t hear about it till after the cut-off to sign-up had closed, so I just did it on my own.) I can’t recall just now if I actually finished it (what, me, not finish a thing? ha!) but I do remember that it gave me a boost in motivation and a prompt to write to daily, which I always enjoy. This time I am an “official” A to Z’er – you can find me listed on this spreadsheet along with dozens of other bloggers. Originally I hadn’t planned to blog to a theme (isn’t sex and kink and relationships enough of a theme?) but after givingRead more …

Forward by the scruff of my neck

I’m moving forward, if incrementally, into a more stable emotional space. I am hoping that feeling better will spur my motivation to write, as well – you know, like the sexy, naughty stuff – but we will see. At the moment, I’m not feeling any sexy, naughty stuff, much less doing any sexy naughty stuff, so it’s kind of a moot point, but, you know, it could happen. Or I could write fiction. As it stands, V and I are kind of in a holding pattern. We’re not off, but we’re not exactly on, either, as I struggle through the emotional morass I have found myself in. We’re holding still. We’re communicating (sometimes a lot) and mostly in healthy ways, and still seeing each other our two times/week. Last weekend we even saw each other in the middle of a weekend day (gasp.) But things aren’t entirely – or even remotely –Read more …

What if?

Mar 14, 2019 | Posted by in Being Poly, Boob Day, Everyday Jade | 0

When things were a bit better, recently, this happened. It was part of the night that this and this happened, and was a lot of fun. After getting roped up and my bra on, prior to dressing, I looked down at the pretty red rope, soft gray bra, and my pokie little nipples and decided they deserved a post of their own. So now you get to enjoy them too for Boobday! I guess I should clarify, actually, that things aren’t bad. In fact, in spite of my blog post earlier this week, they are very, very good in many ways. I mean, this happened just Monday: “This” being me getting walloped with Viper’s belt (mmph, just saying those words in my head makes my pussy twitch a bit) while I was still holding my crochet project. No time to put it down, just him pushing me over and deliveringRead more …

Thoughts on the Smut Marathon – Round 2

Well, here it is the end of Round 2 in the Smut Marathon and I am still in it! Go me! Ok I’ll be honest, I assumed I would be. But not because I’m cocky – BECAUSE I MUST HAVE MISUNDERSTOOD THE RULES. I thought, right up until I saw the email that said, “congrats, you’re still in!” that like Round 1, Round 2 was also a no-knockout round. I have no idea what gave me that idea – I swear (in spite of missing the “you can vote for yourself” rule and this one) that I read all the instructions all the way through, every time. No really, I do!! Anyway. It appears that in spite of it being a knock-out round, I wasn’t knocked out, which of course pleases me greatly. It also means that I now go on to the next round, which assignment is even trickier! So aRead more …

A Rough Couple of Days

Mar 11, 2019 | Posted by in 2019 Smut Marathon, Being Poly, Everyday Jade | 3

Or weeks, I guess. It started with a weekend alone that didn’t turn out the way I planned during which my blogs both crashed and I was faced with the possibility of them not being recoverable. In the face of that I was overwhelmed with feeling like I’m nobody’s priority. Things just went downhill from there. So here I am, ten days into March and I haven’t written a word since my last 2019 Photofest post on Feb. 28. I’m proud I finished it out, and I was proud of my entry and ranking for Round 2 of the Smut Marathon, but the bottom line is I just haven’t had it in me to write much. Maybe, as As Hy said in her Boobday post Friday, I blew my writing wad with the Photofest. But I know there is more to it than just that. The debacle with my sites beingRead more …