Everyday Jade

All the miscellaney…

It’s 11:45 p.m. Do you know where your sleep is?

Feb 20, 2019 | Posted by in Everyday Jade, Relationship Stuff | 2

I can’t find mine. I’ve fallen into the habit of not being able to settle down to write until after 10 or 11 at night, and not finishing up and being able to try to sleep till after midnight or 1 a.m. And then, sometimes, not even then. It’s wreaking havoc with my daylight hours; I am drowsy and nod off at my desk, I nap at lunch, I am bleary and unfocused. I yawn all day. I want to train myself out of it – make myself go to bed earlier, forsake my laptop, do all the things they say you’re supposed to do for good mental and physical health – but then I won’t get any writing done, and now that I’ve started again it’s like a flood of words in my head and I Have To Get Them Out. Or what, I don’t know. Part of thisRead more …

February 14 – Cold Day by the Lake

Feb 14, 2019 | Posted by in 2019 February Photofest, Everyday Jade | 5

I have discovered Pixl! This was at the end of our adventure day. I was bundled up next to him in the car, drowsy, satisfied with our day’s ramble. Happy to be sharing this time with him, sharing a mutual interest. A lake by the highway attracted our attention. “I want to take pictures of you by the lake,” he said. We had to double-back to get to it. And there were more cars there than either of us had expected. It was cold. But I couldn’t resist his grin. It was such a beautiful day. Clear, bright, the sunlight like shards of glass, reflecting, prismatic. The sound of geese in the air. The breeze so very cold on exposed skin, on the rings below. It was a good ending to the day.  

February 10 – Can YOU Spot the Cock Rings?

Feb 10, 2019 | Posted by in 2019 February Photofest, Everyday Jade, Uncategorized | 3

A “Where’s Waldo” for the kinky folk. My cookbook/bakers rack. Standing there all innocent in the corner. With, you know, cookbooks and knick-knacks on it. This is exactly how it would have looked if the roommate’s parents and grandma had come over for dinner this past weekend, because neither of us registered what we’d left hanging there after our Christmas party. It took my daughter to point them out. She came over after we tried a new yoga class (trapeze yoga – super contra-indicated for the hip pain I’ve been having. Didn’t realize that till today, when my hip pain has increased tenfold. Gah.) Anyway. We spent the day messing with tarot cards, crocheting, watching Grey’s Anatomy (her second time, my first, with her explaining who everyone was and what all their quirks were), and talking about baking. Her: baking edibles (apparently she and her brother are going into aRead more …

February 8 – I Woke Up Like This. #braless

Feb 8, 2019 | Posted by in 2019 February Photofest, Boob Day, Everyday Jade | 6

I’ve been working out downstairs, in my employer’s workout room, since the weather has turned so cold – I don’t like getting in and out of the cold to go from work to car to gym to car to home. Today, while getting changed into my workout gear, I realized I had forgotten to put a bra on that day. Yeah, I’ve got small-boob privilege. Hey, there’s gotta be some advantage to it, right? Seriously, though, while looking through internet memes and images about going braless, I was amazed at how many articles there were in various magazines pointing out and discussing this-or-that celebrity’s braless state. Apparently it’s big news, when a person decides to wear only one (or two) items of clothing over their breasts. It’s not even skin they’re being all shocked over, it’s just the shape of nipples – the fact that women actually have nipples, IRead more …

February 4 – Self-Care

I had a totally different idea of the image I was going to post today – another one from my Saturday adventuring with Allan – but then I ended up here, alone, experiencing the after-effects of the event we’d just been at and the choices I make in living the way I do. Text messages, when I might prefer loving hands, skin on skin, a warm body and arms holding me. Adam, via text, moments ago: “I think we have gotten to bedtime. Love you!” And Viper, moments later: “Gonna go ahead and say goodnight…” And I am here, alone because I choose to be, but also alone because I can’t pick and choose when to be alone. Sometimes, when I don’t wanna be…here I am. But it’s not as bad as it has been before. Sub-drop is not quite as hard; I’ve learned to manage as an only. AsRead more …

Life with a Grown-Up Daughter

Feb 1, 2019 | Posted by in Everyday Jade | 1

I’ve written lots and lots about the wonderful relationship I share with my now-26 year old daughter. She’s far from perfect – she can be acerbic, unforgiving, very demanding in her expectations of those around her – but she is also brilliant, funny, determined and loving. And she has my sense of curiosity about the world around her, a desire to learn and do everything. It is exciting to watch her growing up, growing into a human I am so proud to know. We spend a good amount of time together, most of it pursuing one or the other of her or my interests, laughing, telling stories, being silly. She mothers me at times, and resists me mothering her, lol. These past few weeks we have spent a lot of unplanned-for time together (and some planned) since she has recently split from her long-term boyfriend and moved back to theRead more …

Pondering February Photofest

If you’ve been around the sex blogging blogosphere for long, or around here for long, you’ve no doubt run across the meme that Molly of Molly’s Daily Kiss hosts every February: February Photofest. It is no small undertaking, and it has grown exponentially since she first started it. I have participated every year since the beginning except 2015. In fact, the last photo I took for W was one for the meme while I was separated from him by work commitments – the night before his first stroke, the one that put him in the hospital and was the beginning of the end. February Photofest is so many things for so many people. It is a celebration, it is a learning experience, it is a chance to explore or to push boundaries. Sometimes, for me, it was a way to connect across the miles with W, as when I wasRead more …