Everyday Jade

All the miscellaney…

June 9

Jun 10, 2018 | Posted by in Every Damn Day in June, Everyday Jade | 0

So yeah, done with the cutesy title for the moment. It’s the 9th of June and I have written EVERY DAMN DAY. Yeah, I’m patting myself on the back. Even if it’s only 1/3 of the way through June. So yeah, here I am in San Diego. This isn’t the view from my room but it might as well be. I have a balcony. A BALCONY! And no one to bend me over the rail and fuck me on it. <sad> Otherwise it’s a good trip so far. I… got roped into having dinner with my colleague, and it was actually okay! In fact I like his wife. stretched outside my comfort level and initiated conversation with several people. met the cute “Wellness” instructor and had some good convo with him made good food choices. I get to have an orgasm tonight! There’s other stuff, but wine and tequila andRead more …

Jun 8, 2018 | Posted by in Every Damn Day in June, Everyday Jade | 0

I actually managed to get up and stay up at 6am this morning. Now, I was at V’s, and his alarm goes off at 5:15 or 5:30, and we lay there and snuggle and slowly wake up until he leaves the the bed between 5:45 and 6, so it’s a bit different than when I’m home alone at my house. When I try to do that “wake up slow” routine when I’m alone, I just fall back to sleep. At his house, for some reason, it’s easier. But still. This is the first time in months that I’ve actually got up and done my whole morning routine: Drink water. Do stretches. Practice mindfulness/do my devotion. Take my pills. Start my day. With this writing challenge, I want to add morning writing to that as well. Today I left V’s early so I could get in to my office and write,Read more …

Nothing here to see

Jun 7, 2018 | Posted by in Every Damn Day in June, Everyday Jade | 0

Another post I have to write on my phone. Hey, I’m getting good at it! I’m at V’s tonight, and I left my laptop home. AND I have misplaced my tablet (again.) So phone it is. I don’t have a lot of time, or actually very much to write about just now. I’ve been too crazy at work to devote any mental space to a “topic”, and most of my time outside of work I’ve been fighting hamster head, so not really conducive to blogging. But I’ve been keeping up on the challenge, and on the other two, more or less (last night’s fight against the hamster involved ice cream, but I’m going to give myself a mulligan on that one. Ok. I know that was boring, but that’s all I got. See you tomorrow!

Black

I waited until my packing was *somewhat* complete before I turned on my laptop to write, but then the damn thing told me it has a “major” update. I told it to update overnight last night, but I guess it only did part of it, because it’s been installing updates now for 30 minutes and it’s only at 4%. It’s also telling me, “this WILL take awhile,” (emphasis mine), but that’s telling, as it usually says this “may” take awhile, and then takes forever. It may not be done until I get back from San Diego next week. But perhaps making me wait to write is for the best. My mood was black and who knows what vitriol I would have spewed forth on these pages if I’d sat down to write then. For now my ire is contained, and besides, it’s hard as fuck to write eloquently or forRead more …

Dear Younger Me…

Today is a better day. I woke up eager to write, in fact so much so that I left V’s house early so I could come in early to work to do so. I’d forgotten how much I like to be in the office before anyone else. Our hallway is dark, their offices too, this side of the building is quiet. It’s not that different when they are here, to be truthful, but without the extra bodies it’s just…peaceful. Oh, ha, I know why it feels good: it reminds me of working from home. It reminds me of getting up in the morning just at dawn in the Treehouse. I miss it there, sometimes. How colorful it was, how peaceful up there in the trees. I don’t miss not being able to walk everywhere; not having a wonderful park right in my neighborhood and the Botanical Gardens practically next door;Read more …

Unexpected

Every damn day, right? I think I have more “profound” thoughts first thing in the AM, but my morning was spent making breakfast for V, getting a little whacking-at-my-request from him, and then seeing him off while I went outside to work in the yard before it got too hot. That was five hours and four garbage bins full of weeds ago. The backyard looks neater, if not green, because it’s never really had grass growing in it. But we have tiger lilies and I planted hostas, and now I have a raised bed full of vegetables that are actually growing. Like CRAZY. So I’m happy with my day’s labor. If a bit sore. Adam just got here with soaker hoses, a splitter and a timer, too, to automate the watering process. And now we are looking at sod for a small, square piece of the yard. I’m not aRead more …

More Challenges

Of the good kind, this time! I stumbled across this post by Kayla Lords (ok it wasn’t a stumble, it was in my inbox, but I’ve been too busy to give my email more than a cursory glance this past week) and I said, “Aha! Just what I need! Another challenge…” “Every Damn Day in June” is a 30-day writing challenge created by the talented and voluptuous Hyacinth over at A Dissolute Life Means… If you don’t read her, you really should be. In short, she is challenging herself to write, as the name implies, every day in June, and she has invited the rest of us to join in. It doesn’t have to be novel-worthy, deep or a certain number of words – you just have to WRITE SOMETHING. So what the heck. I could use a little kick in the ass to get me motivated to get upRead more …

When even a massage doesn’t help.

May 31, 2018 | Posted by in Being Poly, Everyday Jade, Relationship Stuff | 0

This evening my massage therapist asked me what I’d like to get out of my massage, and I said, in complete honesty, please just take me out of my head. I had had a rough day on multiple fronts, not the least of which was my car – after I had driven it away from the mechanic, supposedly fixed – doing the same thing that had gotten it towed to the mechanics in the first place. Back to the drawing board. There were other things, too, interpersonal things, relationship bullshit that I really think we should all just be beyond, and just general life crap. Sometimes, really? I want to just say fuck it and walk away. Unfortunately this tale doesn’t have a happy ending like, oh she was so amazing all my worries were massaged away! Nope, instead she chatted the entire massage. I’ve had her before and notRead more …

Primaries and Hierarchical Poly

May 25, 2018 | Posted by in Being Poly, Everyday Jade | 1

I’ve been doing a lot of painting lately, which lends itself to a lot of rumination. And what I’ve been pondering the last few weeks is the notion of “primaries,” in relationship structure. In particular, my relationship structure with Adam. Adam and I have been living apart for some time now (a little over a year.) And as I’ve noted, I really enjoy my solo life – and in addition, I enjoy the time I do spend with him a lot more. I’ve finally structured my life in a way that works for me: I see V twice a week, with him over at my house 2 Mondays a month and one weekend night (I’d like this to be more flexible, with some daytime activities or additional time thrown in there, but for now I am okay with things); I see Adam one weekend night and one weekend day, plusRead more …

And finally, Z

May 24, 2018 | Posted by in A-Z Blogging Challenge, Everyday Jade | 1

I know, I know, it’s been so long that ya’ll forgot I was still doing the alphabet. Sorry about that. Had a little technical difficulty with the photo upload. BUT! Here they are, at last, and here we are, at last, at the letter Z. Z is for Zion Zion National Park, that is. This park has been on my bucket list for as long as I can remember, I think since I lived in Salt Lake City, when my eldest was a toddler. I never got to go (got back together with his father and so of course my whole life fell apart again, but that’s an old, boring tale.) This tale has a lot more going for it. I am so sad we only had one day there, but eternally grateful that Adam knows me so damn well that he single-handedly made this little side jaunt from VegasRead more …