How do YOU masturbate?
One of the most empowering things about masturbation is that through self-pleasuring, we learn about our bodies. We learn what feels good and what doesn’t, what makes us tick; how our bodies work and how we can give ourselves pleasure. When we learn to give ourselves orgasms, we are then able to teach our lovers how to do so, and invite them to share this intimate space with us, where everyone reaches sexual fulfillment, in whatever form that takes. Knowing our own bodies intimately gives us agency over and responsibility for our own pleasure. When we encounter a selfish lover, someone who doesn’t care if we are satisfied sexually, or who ignores our attempts to teach them how to help us achieve orgasm, we know that ultimately we own our own orgasms – we don’t have to rely on them “give them” to us. It can be an empowering feeling. It’s given…Read more …
